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Popular Wedding Songs for Generation X

We’ve played dozens of weddings over the last four years, and they are almost always for people around our age, Generation Xers. There is probably a quality to our music that resonates with this generation. I did a little research and was surprised to find that Generation Xers actually don’t feel like a generation at all. But I was also surprised to find how well I fit the description… it was a little disconcerting. Some highlights: first generation to come home to empty houses with both parents still working, we’re entrepreneurial, individualistic, feel misunderstood, want to save the neighborhood, not the world, late to marry etc. Does this resonate with anyone else out there?

I decided to make a list of some of our most popular requests from this generation. I love how they are a mix of mainstream and alternative.


Many of us can remember the first time we heard the Jeff Buckley version of this Leonard Cohen song. It’s powerful, romantic, painful, and vulnerable with redemption possible at the end. Probably one of the most cathartic songs about the complications of love and the relief of finding it at last.

Beloved One

Our generation really made the career of Ben Harper, so it is no surprise that we claim this one as our own. I love the honesty and simplicity of the lyrics: “We have both been here before, knocking upon loves door, hoping for someone to let us in.”

All I Want Is You

We grew up on U2 and your favorite bands as a kid stay with you for life. Bono has this incredible ability to mix vivid imagery with memorable choruses and melodies. The story on him is that all of his love songs, every single one, was written for his wife. So I can’t think of a more appropriate catalogue of songs to dig up for a Gen X wedding. “You say you’ll give me eyes in a moon of blindness, a river in a time of dryness, a harbour in the tempest.”

Good Feeling

I’m definitely borrowing the idea for this song from the show “How I Met Your Mother” a TV series basically written by and about our generation. On the show the Violent Femmes song is performed by the LA band The 88, and their version is less gritty than the original but beautifully done in their own style. I like this song as an idea for the first dance: edgier, likely not understood by the grandparents, by a high resonance with folks our own age.

These are just a few of the most popular wedding songs for Generation X that we’ve come across. We’d love to know if you have any suggestions.


Best Oregon Eco Wedding Venues

Oregon is known as a hotbed of sustainability and environmentalism, so it is no surprise that is was easy to make a list of the the best Oregon eco wedding venues. Check ’em out and let me know what you think.

EcoTrust Building

Located in the heart of downtown Portland, nothing says eco wedding louder than the EcoTrust building. You and your guests will enjoy views of the city skyline from the gardened rooftop terrace. When the sun sets, move the party downstairs to the conference center for dancing or dinner. The building is LEED Gold Certified, Earth Advantage Certified and manages 98% of storm water with bioswales and a eco roof. Your guests can arrive by streetcar and there is tons of bike parking.

Sokol Blosser Winery

From the company that not only was one of the first to champion Oregon wine, but one of the first to do it sustainably, Sokol Blosser’s list of eco-friendly practices are too long to list, but here are few: They use biodiesel in their farm tractors and trucks, they use 100% renewable power including 30% from their own solar panels, and their underground barrel cellar was the first winery building in the country to receive the LEED certification. They take only a few reservations for weddings a summer, so contact them early to get on the list.


Eugene’s BRING Recycling Center

One of the nation’s oldest recycling centers, the Garden of Earthly Delights is not only enchanting, but filled with tons of ideas on reusing materials. There are unusual edible and drought-resistant plants, rainwater harvesting and a large gathering place. This location is not for everyone, but just right for a quirky couple passionate about the environment.

Lake Creek Lodge

One of my personal favorite wedding venues in Central Oregon, Lake Creek Lodge in on a tributary of the Metolius river and has a few dozen rustic cabins connected by pathways and darling footbridges over Lake Creek. The owners are proud of it’s 90 year history and seek to protect the environmental integrity of the Metolius Basin. These guy walk the talk: in 2004 they partnered with the Upper Deschutes Watershed Council, the Oregon Department of Fish & Wildlife and the U.S. Forest Service to restore fish and wildlife habitat in Lake Creek by replacing their swimming hole with the free flowing stream. This is one of the most important tributaries of the Metolius for the reintroduction of Chinook and Sockeye Salmon.

These guys also only take a limited number of reservations a year.


One of Central Oregon’s most popular wedding venues, FivePine was founded on sustainable practices, and they are not just doing it because it’s trendy. They use third-generation recycled paper, tankless water heaters, and energy-efficient lightbulbs, and the whole campus was designed using a minimal impact approach. We’ve played a dozen weddings here and a ceremony among the towering pines behind the conference center is nothing short of enchanting.